Loss can be gain.

There’s something that changes once you have lost it all.That one thing you held on to so much.The one you thought you couldn’t live without and gave everything humanly possible to hold on. Then one day you wake up and it’s gone; it’s just gone, and you can’t get it back. The pain, the tears, the heart wrenching emotional torture that comes with knowing all. You did wasn’t enough. It is a difficult place to even for the strongest people.
I realize that sounds cliche and that for most people it is very relatable. How much I wish life was predictable so we could know when hearts are about to be shattered into a million little pieces. Watching all your dreams wash away is a different ballgame all together. Watching the person you thought would be your forever walk away and not look back. Watching your loved one be lowered into a grave and knowing you will never hear the sound of their voice again. Watching as your career unfolds into something you didn’t dream of. Looking at your children as they turn into different beings from those you had imagined. Giving your business all of your soul and watching everything go down the drain.Watching your health deteriorate after you did everything humanly possible to stay healthy.
They will tell you it will pass or that tomorrow will be better.What they will not tell you is that each morning that you wake up knowing it’s gone isn’t easy. Learning to love the version of yourself that pain created is not easy. Letting go of behaviors that you learned in order to cope takes so much work and time, oh precious time.
So my go-to way of dealing with it is to feel the pain, to cry their tears, to wash away the regrets, and to dip myself in the memories. Stay down, underground down, and let the earth cover you. Let reality water you with it’s cold, so that when you germinate again, there’s nothing that can take you back to that.
How powerful it is that when you find the strength, you will be renewed, for you will have left it all behind. How much power your scars will give you, because the old will be gone and the new will have come. So you will wear your scars with pride and live in your honor. To rise again, to stand tall knowing that no matter what happened, you are still here.

Believing that you can do better because you know better.